How to meet girls on Instagram. Instagram as an online dating tool.
Instagram is not designed to be a dating tool, but with a bit of hacking involved it beats even the conventional dating platforms.
I have had my fair share of Tinder girls before I went all in daygaming and using Instagram as a dating tool. While tinder is easy I would say it is quantity over quality approach.
Why I would not consider a Tinder girl even for a short term relationship.
Every single girl I met was trying to convince me she is not like the rest and yet most of them were exactly the same. Short attention spans, large number of guys to choose from at any given time. Generally weird interactions and a feeling of “there is something missing”.
Best looking women out there just won’t ever register on tinder. They don’t need it. They are getting attention at work, at school, anywhere they go.
However nearly every best looking girl has Instagram, I am yet to find a girl above 9 without Instagram.
Step by step guide:
Find a girl you like
Just give yourself a second and think, where do the girls you like congregate. How old are they? Lets take the common example and say you like girls in 18-24 range. Where do they go? They go to nightclubs and bars, they study in universities and if you like them fit some of them go to gyms.
Instagram can save a lot of time and money in your dating process if you do things right.
Instead of going to a nightclub (which is a rather expensive, unhealthy venture) to get access to a limited number of girls to approach (normally you can approach few sets only) you could go to a club’s geotags and message the girls who visited this club last weekend and many weekends before that for as many as several years. Not all of them will use geotags, but trust me it gives you potential access to a much larger number of women than night game.
You can also get access to girls in the universities where you have never studied. This is a very good way of limiting the age range.
Gyms are a hit or miss as unfortunately this is a the geotag type where guys are most active. Try female gyms, yoga studios, dancing studios etc. What you will get with gyms however is the higher quality of women.
Lets me show you how to find a girl using university geotags.
As I am planning a trip to Budapest in few weeks I will use it as an example.Search for Budapest university and press “places”. This gives you a full list of Universities of Budapest.
Open any of these geotags and scroll through in search of a girl you like, or numerous girls. This is numbers game as a good reply rate would be within 10-20% range. Some of the girls have boyfriends, some are just not checking their IG often enough. Start with opening 10 girls an hour and slowly increase if needed, this will help you avoid a temporary ban. Use different openers, because copy/paste method will also increase chance of you getting a temporary DM ban.
After using this method to pipeline few times and having notable results my limits were lifted. I believe these days I could easily message 20-30 girls an hour without any trouble.
Before opening. Like 3 to 5 of the girl’s pictures and follow her. This is an important trick I use to get over the Message Request folder barrier. What the girl will see in her activity log is something like this:
Pay attention to an importance of Instagram name and the thumbnail picture. This is what should spark the girls interest and make her visit your account.
With your Instagram Name and a thumbnail picture you must be able to create an emotional response attraction or curiosity. After that the next thing girl sees is your amount of followers, your description and the 6 last photos you posted. This is where she get the scope of your value and gets further interested, she might scroll through the top 20 photos, see the engagement and gauge the preselection. She is ready now, she presses follow.
As soon as she follows you back she receives the notification of the message you sent her.
Open a girl.
Just as in daygame or nightgame you have same options. Indirect, direct, semi-direct or situational.
Indirect could be a question about a place that you are pipelining. You are just a lost tourist looking for a guide.
Direct could be complement about a girls appearance.
Hi I am going to your town in a week. What is a best bar on a Thursday night?
I usually follow up with, thanks you are very helpful/great guide. You should come join me for a beer.
Another way of doing it could be – what is the best place to eat/coffee/walk in your city?
After you receive your answer proceed with thanking a girl and offering her to enjoy listed activity with you. Note that it is not your chatting skills, but the value of your amount of followers and great album that should make the girl accept the offer. Pay attention to how the girl from Budapest reacted to my opener, see the word awesome in there?
You show a bit of interest. But it is vague.
Loved your album!
You are cute/beautiful/interesting…
Wait to receive the thankful reply, proceed with your normal text game.
Comment on something you have seen in a girls album or a description. Not a bad way to open as it is more relevant, but requires more time and puts you in a lower value position.
Try taking a screenshot of the photo sending it to a girl and adding a comment. Situational can also have a hint of direct/semi-direct/indirect in it.
In the case listed above I went semi-direct and the response was good.
Depending on a response and the level of interest you can choose different ways to proceed.
I prefer to have a brief chat and take conversation to WhatsApp. If the girl is not showing an interest I might take a bit more time to build some trust chat a bit more and get to know each other.
If you get a response don’t forget to put a girl in a whitelist. Sometimes I failed to do this and some girls noticed and were not happy.
Terrible and ugly message request folder.
If you open a girl out of the blue the chanced that she sees your message are slim. If a girl is cute and has some following by that time she would have probably disabled notification of new messages from everyone. Use the tricks provided above to overcome this issue. It is kind of funny as at times I get messages from girls in places I visited years ago and they get all sad that I have already left.
Tips and tricks:
If your interaction stalls on WhatsApp and the girl is not replying your last few messages take the conversation back to Instagram. Girl might just need to refresh her memory on how much value you have to offer.
Use stories to stay active. Sometimes I scroll through stories of the girls I am slow-cooking prior to my arrival and just react in the form of a smiley face or something simple. Takes seconds, but makes the girl go back and check your stuff out.
If you find a girl that you like a lot after you follow her scroll through the list of suggestions, these might be the similar girls. Be careful thought cause some times they might be her friends.
Good luck with your Instagram Game and stay tuned for the next post where I will talk about how to automatize your Instagram dating.